One of the hardest things to do is get perspective on a problem when you’re still “in” it. Even if you’re someone who goes through the majority of your days with a high level of awareness, I’m willing to bet there are still those times when you obsess over something to the point where you’re convinced you’ll never be happy again because this time, THIS TIME, there’s just no solution.
And then hopelessness sets in, right?
But it doesn’t have to be that way. If you can just remember that you have tools at your disposal, tools like the ones I list below, then you’ll be able to spend a lot less time in the dumps.
8 Great Resources to Help You Get Perspective on a Problem
1. 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life by Andrea Owen
Andrea also has a great podcast, but this book is organized into super short chapters, and it’s easy to whip it out and flip to a topic that speaks to what you’re going through—from people-pleasing and regret to “feeling fat” and failing.
2. Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection
Oftentimes our problems create feelings of fear and shame inside us, even when we’re not consciously aware of it. There are a ton of ways to gain more awareness around this and work through things in an effective way, but you may find you enjoy reading Brené’s perspective on all things shame and fear. This particular book of hers covers things like letting go of what people think, letting go of perfectionism and exploring the power of love, belonging and being enough.
3. “How to Solve Any Problem” on The Life Coach School Podcast
My master coach, Brooke Castillo, provides serious value on her podcast, and episode #17 is specifically about solving the problems in your life. Give it a listen, and let me know if you have any questions. Having trained under Brooke at The Life Coach School, I love talking about this stuff.
4. Byron Katie’s Loving What Is
If you haven’t learned about Katie’s four questions and turnarounds—which she simply calls “the work”—I highly recommend reading this book or just checking out her work online. The tools she came up with have helped me get through a tough situation or two (or twenty), and you might find you like having them in your back pocket as well.
5. Chapter 16 of Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass
The whole book is fantastic, but in chapter 16, a short chapter titled “Loosen Your Bone, Wilma,” Jen chronicles a trip to India and reminds us of a few things we could all stand to remember more often, like finding the humor and loosening your bone. 😉
6. Anything Eckhart
Okay, so there’s a good chance that many of the words that come out of Eckhart Tolle’s mouth will make you go, Say what? But even he knows that and has confidence that the message will still come through. Two of my personal favorite books of his are A New Earth and The Power of Now. Read anything he has to say about the ego, see it in your life and watch how your perspective on your problem shifts.
7. A Plain Ol’ Piece of Paper
Cringe at the thought of writing stuff down? Feel too much like homework? Here’s my advice: Get some paper and do it anyway. Set a timer if you have to, and then write. Write, even as you try to persuade yourself to go do something else. Write down every ugly thought you have about whatever problem you’re dealing with. You don’t have to do anything at all with it. Just get it out on paper.
8. A Half-Hour Coaching Session with Yours Truly
Sometimes the best thing you can do is talk to someone who can see—and help you see—your problems from an unbiased perspective. That’s why I offer everyone a completely free, no-obligations coaching session. It’s as simple as hopping on the phone so we can dive into whatever you’re dealing with, and I can offer tips specific to your situation.
A lot can—and does—happen in just thirty minutes. Click here to get on my calendar!